From July 2015 Newsletter. Sign up for the S'eclairer Newsletter here.
What causes a person to be happy? How do we make ourselves happy? One of the objectives for every parent who loves their children is “to see them happy” or “to have a happy life”.
What I have discovered in 30 years of health care and 50 years of meditation is that most people who are unhappy are so because of their own mind.
Let me explain. When you build castles in the sky of how things are going to be better when you acquire this or that, obtain a certain level of power or status, reach a certain income level, or gain a certain title or degree, you are searching external.
The real truth is that happiness comes from within / internal - a centered peaceful mind – not from things. Things are distractions for your mind to not to get to know yourself – the true you. It is difficult to sit and just be with yourself and not think about what you need to do next – but just to Be. This is the essence of meditation or mindfulness. All kinds of things come up in the mind when you try to just Be: your fears, your worries, your expectations or what is fair or what is owed to you. All of these thoughts / desires are really taking your mind away from finding out who you really are and perhaps what your true destiny is – what makes you happy.
Unfortunately, we are encouraged to do this from a societal conditioning that this is how you set goals and reach them and this is what you need to do to be successful and “normal”. Always striving for the external things, the benchmarks of success.
Quite frankly, success is something that you just know about yourself and do not have to ramp yourself up over n over again to try to believe it. True success is not acquiring anything, but realizing that you have it all. This is genuine success, not contrived. Being at peace with yourself IS success. No one ever can take that away from you, where as everything external can be snatched away in a heartbeat.
Often I see clients who have accomplished much external, but who still suffer internal. There is no peace in their mind.
Something is missing.
Something is lacking.
Their worldly success does not fulfill them.
Their participating in therapy leaves them empty.
Their spiritual quest has let them dry.
They are “ok”, but they know they can be better.
They want to reach their peak, and enjoy life more.
Why study the mind? So that you can ultimately become the happy person you were destined to be! This is exactly what we do in Immortal Mind training.
Courtesy the Inner Strength Newsletter. Find out more at www.inner-strength.org.